I Won't Marry a Man who believes this Forbes.com Article
A male counterpart had sent me a Forbes.com article a few days ago arguing that men should marry women with careers. I am not providing a link to it because I think it's a load of crap and you smart people out there can find it if you really want to. Obviously I'm not the only woman who took issue with it as seen in this article. The article spurred quite the controversy and I'm sure the buzz is giving Forbes.com more popularity than it's experienced in a while. I'm not a raging bitch feminazi or a crazy leftist; I'm just offended that someone would imply that because I am educated, because I want to make something of myself so that I don't have to rely on a husband to take care of me, that I won't make a good wife should that be my desire. A wife as an equal in a relationship built on respect, honesty, and communication, who has values and morals and is not interested in extra-marital affairs.
Also, a quick mention, a woman I went to college and volunteered with, Jill at Feministe, has quite an informative counter-position to the original article with some nice dissection of the lovely statistics and findings that were cited. I'm with Jill, you "smart men" who find truth in this article should not bother with me.
posted by ALP @ 6:38 PM
3 Comments:
Having a career is sacrifice, why would a women (or anyone) expect something different.
The rebuttal is anecdotal, the Noer piece cites several academic studies. Its obvious which one the data support.
Having a career means that things outside of work will suffer, including marriage. Why is that unexpected? Its not a matter of faith, people who think they can have their cake and eat it to will only be dissapointed. Of course they'll always have thier cats!
Thanks for the link, Alicia!
To anonymous: Most of the studies cited in the article are gender-neutral. That is, career men are just as responsible for these marital problems as career women are. And yet they're only used to attack working women as unmarriagable.
And by the way, the "career woman" in the Noer article is any female with a college degree, or who makes more than $30,000 a year. That's a hell of a lot of women, and Noer makes some awfully sweeping generalizations about such a large section of the population.
anyway, so it just seems like the guy is trying to get hits and click-throughs to forbes' website. i don't doubt the validity of the studies, and perhaps the percentage of highly successful couples in successful marriages is very low, the correlation does not equate to causation. it could just be that successful people spend too much time at work and don't have social skills and such.
the original author penned his article targeted towards men, and while the argument is not scientific nor factual, it may just be that men this day in age have better relationships with vacuous and poor women. who knows?
the thing is, you could just as easily write the article dedicated towards women. the point is that if you're a guy, you blame it on the girl. if you're a girl, you blame it on the guy. it's your isreal - palestine problem. it always takes two to tango, so it may just be that it helps when the other party is a doormat. (not saying it's best, but just saying)
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